......someone says "but you're looking so well...." I'll either burst into tears or deck them.
Good luck, Dave.
Hi Carl28 (Dave).. Oh yes, this is so irritating isn’t it. Are we only allowed to look like we are at death’s door when we have stage 4 cancer? Are they trying to say they don’t believe us? Is it belittling how awful we may feel despite “looking well”. I find myself telling people “I may not look like I have stage 4 cancer, but….” Perhaps I should just stop.

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