Lovely morning chit-chat thread - February 2025

Hi Patrick.

I also lost what I thought was friends, though for me turns out they where really not my friends.

Some times people do not know what to say to you, because its a Cancer Diagnosis, but plenty of other illness people have, and they take no notice.

Glad you have friends that have stuck around, good one. 

Hi I so agree there is a particular married couple who once they heard a had been diagnosed terminal insisted on ringing EVERY evening for weeks asking how I was ( kind I know ) but I felt that there was a … shall we get the funeral clothes out ….:in their conversation I think they got fed up of waiting as they hardly ring at all now  thank goodness that’s my rant to join hours . Have a good night everyone x Chris 

Yes, I sometimes get the feeling they are a bit disappointed when you say you feel great, sad soandsos

Hi Patrick

I found people seem to have a ‘special’ stigma around cancer. Given 1 in 2 people will have them, you thought people would not freak out. Other people with chronic incurable condition ie COPD, heart failure. do not attract this sort of special attention. 
I have lost friends whom I know for over 20 years but also reconnected with old friends too. Over still net gain. 
Stella x

Good evening Patrick, you are so right in what you said. People do change when you mention the big C. What makes me want to scream is when they all of a sudden treat you as if you were some sort of idiot. I have had the pleasure to point out to a few that I have cancer and not a sudden empty brain syndrome. Hope you will enjoy the rest of the evening in peace 

love Angie and Lilly xxx

Sorry couldn’t go to bed having been a bit hard on people who maybe didn’t mean to be unthinking I would just add that over the last year I have had many friends and others who just want to help and support. I can settle down now having tempered my rant with remembering to acknowledge  the positive too Good night all x Chris 

I remember as a child when talking about depression was unheard of and now they are all proud to have a personal therapist. Maybe cancer will go the same way and become more accepted. Hope so. Thanks Ellie, Hilo, Stella and Alana, have a good evening, and Lilly keep an eye on your friend.

Morning Every One Its Friday.

Yes bit chilly, though the Sun is out, and like me I am ready to go out.

Had Oncologist Wednesday, phone call 8.30 this morning go for my CT Scan 10.15 tomorrow. never stops, and i was going to have a lie in.

Hope you all have a pleasant day, and any appointments one may have, hope it goes well.

Hi Gilpat  it is comforting to know in a strange way, that we have all experienced this with so called friends one way or another. I have mentioned before how I had a very large social group, but now I really only have 2 close friends, one of those being someone who I met through the forum. One of my so called friends said to me once when I was talking about my cancer, that she thought I was over all that! Whatever all that was meant to be I don’t know, but I soon realised that I really didn’t need lots of fake friends, only true friends matter. 

Morning ellie 73  that was a very early call! Hopefully you will get a lie in on Sunday, fingers crossed.