Lovely Morning-Chit -Chat- Thread - February 2024

Thank you Eddie.  My daughter thinks if she doesn't see me then it's not happening. Unfortunately tho this thing we all have Is real and not going anywere 

Hi Bev, I hope your daughter and my son have a change of mind, i know it must be difficult for them. My 2 girls are very close to my son and they tell me he has set off to visit a few times but it gets too much for him. I am being patient, but it's hard to think i may never see him again. 

Eddie

Hi Bev, we have spoke about our daughters before. My eldest daughter is by-polar we were very close till I divorce her dad , he was a cheating abusive man. The girls said they would live with there nan if I took him back. We were kind of ok, till cancer reared its head. She turned very nasty. I stopped phoning her when she said except it uour old sick and going to died and put the phone down. In 5 years she has never been near. She's  very nice on the phone now, so that's  about once a month. I've given up, it's to upsetting. and since cancer doesn't like me. She's told her sister she's scared of me dying. What can I say, Bev get on with uour life, but a phone call once in a while to keep communication open. We honestly don't need the stress. Take care xx

Moi

Hi Eddie so it's not just daughters, I do feel for you, I know it's very hard but it is what it is. My daughter knows I'm here if she wants or needs me, but I'm  living what time I have left. My youngest lives in Spain I see her and her family every school holiday. Enjoy your girls. Take care xx

Moi

Thanks Moi i do appreciate it. though i am truly sorry to hear about your relationship with your daughter. I do get on with life and knowing my son is happy, has a lovely partner and two wonderful kids and we do talk over the phone every so often and talk to all his family as well. is reassuring. Taking youngest daughter and her three youngest to local wildlife park tomorrow and have booked a hygge afternoon, 

Eddie

Hi Bev, I've just read your post here about your daughter. Of course no one can tell you what to do as only you know your daughter but I had the same problem with one of my two sisters. My younger sister didn't come near, phone or text when I got my dx. At first I was too busy having surgery, going to appointments etc so hadn't realised hong long it had been. It was my older sister who said they had been arguing because my older sister Told her to come and see me. Our only brother died within eight weeks of his dx with the same cancer I have. She told my other sister it was too hard for her and out of sight out of mind!

I phoned her from my husband's phone as she wasn't answering my calls. When she spoke and realised it was me, I asked her if I could talk to her for just a couple of minutes. I told her I understand how hard it must be but it was also difficult for me. I said I was going on a Trial Drug and it could give me an extra few months (as we thought) so I said do you want to LOOSE me now or in a while if I do die in say a years time, will you regret not spending time with me when you could have. Then I put the phone down.

It was a week later she phoned and asked if she could pop in for a coffee. Now don't get me wrong, we have never been close the way we were before but at least we have some contact, even by text. She talks about,,Kurt everything but never asks how I am. That's fine by me as we can still chat. Because the trial drug has worked, she thinks I am cured and still has her head in the sand, but that's fine with me!

Hi Eddie, That sounds like you are in for a brilliant day! Have you seen the prog on TV just now called "The Secret Life of the Safari Park"? It is great! Enjoy every minute of your day, hope the weather is kind to you all!  ( what does a hygge afternoon mean please? Or is it a misprint!

MorningAnnette, I don't really watch TV so anything recent I have never seen. Hygge is a Danish word and custom, does not really translate but means relaxing, bonding and being with like minded people.

Eddie

Morning Eddie and Everyone, Oh well, that explains why I hadn't heard of it before, thanks. Again we have it very wet and very windy here, I hope your weather is better but at least in a Safari Park you are in the car a lot! Enjoy!

I hope you ALL enjoy your day!

Morning again Annette, Hygge, though i had heard of it, this will be my first time, but not booked for today. The Yorkshire wildlife park is great for all ages but you have to leave the car behind, Then later i have a couple of my best friends from my healthcare days round for dinner and to talk about certain things. weather here mild with maybe a shower later, Morning everyone i hope it's a nice day for you all, take care whatever you may do.

Eddie