Hi All,
I completed my final surgery just before Christmas of last year and apart from a few days in hospital during the Summer my recovery from Bowel cancer is very positive. However, returning to a full marital relationship with my wife is proving frustrating. The event being over before it really gets started with me having little to no control and becoming increasingly frustrated. This is not fair on my wife who has been my absolute rock through these past two years. Where could I seek help and advice on this? Has anyone suffered similar experiences. Any help and guidance would be greatly appreciated.
Regards...
Hi sorry you haven't had a response to your post. Have you discussed this with your medical team or your GP as I think they are probably best placed to help you.
I hope your doctors do manage to help you with this.
Hi
I have just recovered from breast cancer and therefore know what you mean about it not being fair on our partners. My husband has been an absolute star and you feel like you want to give them more back. My sex drive definitely not back to normal and my body has changed.
From a women’s perspective your wife will be just glad to have you safe and well, I would imagine that’s too on her list. And don’t forget there are other ways to pleasure her so that she has as much fun as you and therefore it’s not as important about how long you take.
My husband has a similar issue because he is diabetic but remember love conquers all! Where there’s a Will there’s a way!
maybe the doctor can recommend some viagra too?
I wish you all the best remember the hard bit is over we got on top of the cancer
Good luck
xxc
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