Stomaversary!

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Dear Friends,

It's my one year stomaversary.  Had my APR surgery because of a very low small rectal tumour a year ago that resulted in a permanent stoma.  Very successful, got rid of my cancer.  But the operation itself was fairly traumatic and I had a huge amount of pain afterwards which was a shock.  I am now physically healed up but as I have approached this one year I have had flashbacks to it and have been very tearful.  Am outwardly (to friends and family) coping well and get by with finding the funny side in it all, but underneath have recently been struggling.  Has anyone else experienced this?

Jane xx

  • I do drink fizz I confess, as I have coke in my vodka! Joy And I did have a beer here the day I arrived. But these bottles of fizzy wine are mounting up in the fridge here and might be a step too far! Neither of my bags tends to blow up in general, so I’m lucky in that respect but not planning on investigating how much is ok without a blow out! 

    I’m just feeling a bit fed up stuck in the room today, realising I can’t go out anywhere unless I’m pushed in a chair. I can sit on the balcony and watch others drinking wine and sangria in the pool or jacuzzi, but it’s not quite the same as being there! I know I shouldn’t moan, but sometimes it’s just hard not to feel just a tad sorry for myself. And then I’ll beat myself up about that. It’s not easy.

    Sarah xx


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  • Hi Moira sorry about late reply I tried to answer yesterday but it wouldn’t post. 
    London sounds amazing and the atmosphere of actually being theres a wonderful memory. Our Queen was one in a million im not sure I’ll ever feel the same about the Royals she was so thoughtful dedicated and had empathy with people. I think Anne has that character too she works so hard and has a no nonsense approach though maybe she hasn’t got the softness her mother had. We are lucky to be born in the Elizabethan  era 

    I think you’re right about Covid and my lung thingy I am convincing myself it’s that anyway I can’t be worrying all the time. I find talking here helps me put it in a box and push it away.

    Whoopi is still with me she’s just tucked away sleeping. I love that too 

    Hope Brooke is behaving herself. 
    Take care xx

    Ann
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  • Hi Ann,

    Yes, you're right, we're very lucky to have been born when we have!

    Being on here has always helped me and you're a big part of that! Your positivity and humour have helped loads of people Ann, so everyone will try to make sure that box you've put your worries in will stay right at the back of your mind!

    I've got a husband with man flu today, my microwave has decided to break down and my supermarket delivery has everything I needed, out of stock! I've got a huge bottle of gin calling out to me but as I'm on Oramoph for my hip, I've resisted! So Far!

    Take care and keep on smiling,

    Moira x

  • Moira 

    There’s nothing worse than man flu, no food that you fancy and a bottle of gin calling.

    If I had Whoopi I’d pull down my special glass slice a lemon fill it with ice cover in gin and top up with lemonade. Now with that in your hand you won’t care about anything. Hahaha.
    But Moira my boxes would all fall out then I’d have to pick them up put them all back in and think. So I’m staying off the my gin. I have some in the fridge too

    Thanks for your kind words it means a lot. I do annoy people with my upbeat mentality but I’m not changing. My hubby likes it and he’s the same.  
    Hope you can get a nice take away 

    xxx

    Ann
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