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Jacqui, I spotted that you are bothered about your parents not eating properly, have you thought about a supplier of meals, like Wiltshire Farm foods? If you google it, you'll be able to see if you think it might help. (((((((((((a hug))))))))))) for you.....

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totally newbie here ! i'm doing this whilst my husband is still in bed - he says not to read these posts as it will depress me - but you are all helping in different ways ,either by informing or just being here ,if that makes sense!
hubby hasnt had a full diagnosis for his lung cancer yet- awaiting biopsy under general on june 9th - this all started with repeated chest infections back at end of january so its been a difficult year so far !! just want to get things rolling as we are in no mans land at the moment !!
anyway ,just want to say i'm sooo glad i found this site
thank you!

Kim, welcome here, but of course not for the reason you joined! Thats a lovely picture of the two of you.....hope so much that John's investigation can lead to successful treatment.....(((((((( a hug))))))))

There are some threads for lung cancer, if you look to the left of your screen, where it says 'tags', click on 'lung' and it will show you threads in use for that, do feel able to join in, I'm sure you will be welcomed.

Hi - I'm newly diagnosed with breast cancer. Feeling pretty bewildered at the moment. I had a hospital appointment yesterday, with the surgeon, expecting to be given a date for admittance for a lumpectomy only to be told that I'm to have a mastectomy. The type of breast cancer I have is - Invasive (Ductal & Lobular features) Has anybody had a similar diagnosis? and what can I expect? Thankyou, Jan

Hi Jan, just a quick post to say your surgeon should have talked to you about the options regarding reconstruction either immediate or delayed, and regardless of whether they are available at your local hospital or if you would need to travel to another hospital for the reconstruction. If you are interested in reconstruction then give your breast care nurse a call and say you would like to go in and go through the options with her. There is lots of information on the cancerbackup part of the site, but the breast care nurse should know about all the options and which is most suitable for you. Unfortunatly some surgeons are only interested in dealing with the cancer and not the whole person. all the best

Hi Sian, thank you for your reply. Reconstruction was discussed and I have decided against it for the time being. My reason for doing so is because of the recovery time involved. I have a 21 month old granddaughter, Skye, who I will be looking after 3 days a week from Sept (when her Mum starts college full-time). To my mind that is more important than my having two boobs! Mt son's reply to the question 'what do I need two for' was 'in case you have more kids' Boys!
What I don't know is if that will be it or will I need more treatment afterwards? I don't suppose I will have the answer to that until after the op. Having spent this afternoon reading some of the messages it seems very much a wait and see.
So tomorrow I'm taking Skye to Chessington, I'm going to make the most of the next few weeks before my op. just in case I have to have Radiotherapy or Chemo afterwards.

Hi Guys,

Well I find myself here after thinking that having been through losing someone to cancer 4 times (My best friend at age 19 in 2007, my auntie aged 52 in 2002, my cousin aged 23 in 1999 and grandfather aged 72 in 1997) that I could cope with two more cases, but for some reason I find myself at a bit of a loss this time around. Short history of my story so far; my partner found out yesterday that his Grandfather has terminal cancer, which we believe started in his tonsils, and we have been told that nothing can be done to treat this as it is far too advanced. At the moment his Grandfather is still acting "normal", in that he doesn't appear to be poorly, however we have been told to expect a rapid deterioration in the next few weeks/months. I am finding very difficult to help my partner cope with the idea of what is coming and how ill his Grandfather is likely to get; I have never experienced this type of Cancer before and wondered if anyone could give me an idea of what is likely to happen?
Secondly, my uncle is currently undergoing his second round of chemo for secondary lung cancer, and I am finding it very difficult to be constantly faced with a "near end". Perhaps this sounds somewhat selfish? I was just really wondering if anyone can identify with these feelings?

Thank you for reading this

Tilly x

Hi tillykins

I think it's fairly normal and natural to feel as you do after all you have been through and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. I have lost a lot of close people to cancer, too, including my first husband after we had only been married a year so I do know how you feel and I think we all get to the point where we don't want to face any more "endings". People can only really take so much and it takes its toll on them after a while. It's an awful disease and it doesn't get any better the more you see of it - the best you can hope for with terminal cancer is a good death and the Macmillan teams are wonderful at helping people facing the end of their lives.

I am sorry I don't have experience of the type of cancer that your partner's grandfather has but I'm sure someone will be sending you a message soon with more info than I can give you. I have just lost my aunt to lung cancer after a two year battle but she died a good death and I will always have good memories of her and the part she played in my life. I think that perhaps it's a good idea if your partner could focus on all the good things that he loved about his grandfather and how lucky he was to have him in his life. Obviously it will be a difficult time for him but I'm sure that you will be able to help him come to terms with the situation. There are also lots of trained and experienced people that he could talk to if he wanted to - sometimes it helps to talk to someone not directly involved.

Also, it's a good idea to remember that everyone's situation is different - he may not deteriorate very quickly but it might happen slowly and gradually to allow you and your partner time to come to terms with things.

Wishing you all the best and the strength to cope with everything in the months ahead.