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Hello to you all, I am new to this forum . We found out just over 3 weeks ago that my dad has small cell lung cancer, he started chemotherapy today on his 77th birthday, i am so very scared. He has always been our "rock",he is still putting on a brave face ,I feel as though i dont know how i will make it through ,helpless and alone but this forum has made me realise i am not the only one affected by cancer, my heart aches for all of you. I am so very relieved that i can share my feelings with people like yourselves. I dont want to loose my dad , i dont want him to be scared it breaks my heart, i dont want him to be in pain oh my god i am so so so scared please can someone tell me what to expect over these next 12 weeks of chemo and what can i do to help him? i would be very thankfull of any advice, i am truly amazed at the support you all give to each other.its wonderfull xxx

I'm sorry that you have had the need to be here but I think that you will find it helpful and supportive.

If you look at the panel on the left of this page on the second green tab down entitled 'Tags' you will see 'Lung' under cancer types. If you click on that, it will take you to a discussion thread more specific to your dad's cancer.

I would also suggest you put a little bit of info on you profile, i.e. name and where about in the country your are, as it gives others a bit more to relate to and they will be more disposed to answer your posts.

Good luck,
you are not alone.
Mick

thank you mick i have updated my profile. hope you are well. thought i was up late looks like im not alone there either thanks againxx

Hi Taggartmrs

You indeed are not alone, I cannot help you on the Chemo front as my type of cancer could not be treateed with chemo but I do keep a diary on here showing how you can survive this battle or a long time, so please, never give up hope and try to remain positive. Im sure as the day dawns, more people, specefic to your needs will answer your call of help.

Bob

Dear taggartmrs, i have requested you as afriend, my hubby has the same jackie x

Hello all.

I am another new person.
My wonderful mum was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer just under three years ago, incidently we found out about the cancer the same week I found out I was pregnant with my daughter so it was a bittersweet week. My mum had a lump removed and chemo, followed by another op to remove lymph nodes (1yr later) and more chemo, followed by a third lot of chemo so as you can imagine she has gone through the wringer. Finally, following recent tests she has found out she now has secondary liver cancer.
She found this out a week ago and what a change in one week. She has basically retired to her bed and won't eat or drink anything, mostly because this makes her sick (because of the liver swelling). She has deteriorated completely and has now gone into hospital so they can try and give her some nourishment.
Obviously all of this is devastating for me. I am an only child and lost my dad 10 years ago and now face losing my mum in the near future. What hurts more than anything is that she seems to have shut me out completely. I have been to see her every day this week but she doesn;t loo at me or try to talk to me.
I feel completely wretched and don't know what to do.

dear aj5471, im so sorry you have had to come to this site, but on a good note, everyone here are lovely, they will all help and support you, in whatever way they can. if you go to the left hand side of the page and click on cancer tags, it will take you to where you would like to go, to chat to others in a similar position, or you could start your own subject, and bring others to you, good luck, my thoughts are with you, my very best wishes to you and your family. jackie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thank you peggysue.

Hi HarryB. Thanks for your post.

It was a visit from the MacMillan nurse which prompted the hospitalisation. My Mum doesn't want to talk to them - I think she is very much of the opinion that noone can help so perhaps, as you say, she is in shock or depressed. My step-dad will have spoken to them about her state of mind. I know she has had a head scan today but I am not sure why although I have not had a chance to speak to my stepdad about it much.
I feel like she has given up. Its difficult, I mean I have no idea how she must be feeling - she has had such a hard three years and there is never any good news.