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Hi my beloved grandad was diagnosed with lung cancer 23rd december and I dont know what to do. We are all trying to keep everything normal but its breaking my heart to see him go down hill so fast the nurse from our local hospice has already been in to see him. I cant stand to see what its doing to my gran they have been married nearly 53 years and been through enough and they dont deserve this. I have 3 children and i have no idea what to tell them but they know somethings going on. Any ideas the boys are 12 and nearly 10 my daughter is only 4 but she worships grandad she sees him everyday as we live around the corner.

Hi I am a newy to this site, my dad was diagnosed in November with Lung Cancer which has spread to several other areas. He has been doing really well and has had one week of radiotherapy just before Christmas. He was due to have Chemotherapy today but has come down with a chest infection and they have decided to keep him in whilst he has the antibiotics. I am finding it really hard to cope with as I live about a hour and half away and dad dosen't want me 'rushing about' as he puts it, so even though I really want to see him I don't want to upset him by turning up out of the blue. My mum and brother are both with him and everyone is really positive espically dad which is great. Its been a real help reading this site and sharing the experiences of other, I feel better for getting this off my chest as I want to be strong for mum.
Thanks for listerning
kind regards
marcie645

Hello Clarabelle,
I am so sorry to hear about your grandad.It is such a hard time for all of you and so very sad for your gran to see the love of her life suffering so much.

My elder daughter's children were aged 14, 10 and 2 when their Nana ( my Mum ) was diagnosed with lung cancer. My daughter told her older two that their Nana had cancer and was not going to get better. My daughter decided not to tell them their Nana was 'ill' because in their young experience, most people who were ill got better again, and my daughter did not want to give her children false hopes. She told her toddler that Nana was very poorly, because she felt that was as much as he could understand. My daughter found this very hard...... I do hope everything goes as well as possible in the cirumstances for you and all of your family. Keep posting.
love and prayers,
Christine

Hello Marcie,
I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. It sounds as if you have a very loving Dad and he has a very loving daughter. What you are saying about your Dad reminds me a bit of my Mum after she had radiotherapy for lung cancer. I had arranged to go over to my parents' home to give it a blitz with the Dyson and was all set to go when Mum rang telling me not to go because it was too foggy! I was not worried about the fog but to put mum's mind at rest I said I would go by taxi - Mum immediately said she wanted to pay for the taxi!!

I realise how sensitive this is for you and your family and hope all your visits to your Dad are a comfort to you all.
Keep posting.
Love and prayers,
Cristine

hi every one my name is jilly i have been a member since nov 08 i have sent a few messages with words of wisdom hope they helped. i have lost many family members to the big C so my heart and love go,s out to you all. i lost my boy,s dad nearly 4 years ago and that was hard and now my poor son has to see me poorly with breast cancer. no one has said i will die but no one said i won,t i have been so positive and even laughed at my bald head and one boob and told people treat me as you all did but the last few days i have felt so low and down don,t like to burden people so i tried to talk to my fella who shouted at me its all about you stop feeling sorry for yourself but i don,t feel sorry for myself now i feel like i can,t talk about it and all i want is some one to say it will be ok. sorry to moan just had to get it of my chest jilly x

Hi Jilly
You've been through so much and to be told to stop feeling sorry for yourself is very hard to take. I think your man needs a good talking to - he should come on this site and read some of the posts, it might just shut him up. Jilly it will be OK - there is lots of support here for you when you need it, whatever happens you don't have to face it alone and without help. Keep that wonderful, positive attitude regardless of what anyone else says - it will make a big difference. This site is meant for anyone to come and talk, share and hopefully gain strength so don't apologise for moaning, this is the place to do it!
Judy xx

Hello Jilly....

After everything you have been through, you have got every right to feel sorry for yourself. If you find you haven't got as much support at home as you first thought then I'm sure you will find people on here that can help to fill the void a little.
I read your profile & can only agree that you have indeed managed to keep a good sense of humour..

I can only wish you well in your fight against this MONSTER & re-iterate what you already know.....some people do WIN the battle,
A friend of mine is still going 10 yrs after mastectomy with no more incidents, & another friends Mom has been given the all clear 4 months ago. So stay strong, don't worry about whats on the outside, its what you are inside that counts & anyone who says otherwise isn't worth listening to.

Big hugs
Paula xx

hi paula and judy thank you for your lovely words and thanks for making me feel so much better it,s nice to no i can express how i feel with upsetting any one big hugs to you both god bless you love jilly xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hello Marcie,
Your words 'wait and see' really strike a chord with me - I remember thinking that so often when Mum was ill and the medical staff said it to us so often, too: everything is so unpredictable with cancer that if we dare make any plans at all, we ofen need to change them as soon as we make them. I hope your Dad gets effective treatment for his infection - it must be dragging him down just now. And hope your son soon recovers from his tummy bug.
Love and prayers,
Christine
x
(((((( Marcie ))))))