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Hi this is my first time using this site am just a bit lost at the momen, my mum had breast cancer eight years ago and we though that had all been dealt wih and was forgotten.Recently though she broke her hip and a week later the surgeon called her back to say they needed her to come back because there was something wrong with the bone removed. We have since had it confirmed she had extensive active cancer in several areas mainly in bones and some spots on her liver. She is currenly in a hospice to get her strength together as she was recently too weak for radiotherapy. I am at home looking after dad who has parkinsons and just feel totally overwhelmed by it all. I feel like a failure because she wouldn't eat for me so just kept losing weight. I cant seem to keep on top of anything at the moment.

Bazza
That is fantastic news! It doesn't happen often, but you do hear of these stories where cancer just "disappears". Some say it's stuff they have taken or diet, or chemo, others think its a miracle and some say there was a mistake in original diagnosis. Whatever it was, whatever you believe I am very happy for you.

Love HarryV

Frangelina,

I am so sorry for the reason you need to be here, but welcome to the site. My husband also has secondaries in his bones, so I know some of what you are dealing with here.
Please dont feel like a failure. You can only do your best and encourage people to do things that are good for them. But you can't make them. Its their life and their choice.
I hope you will consider filling in a profile & maybe biography as it will help people respond to you and may save you keep repating yourself, if you continue posting.
This site is full of people in similar situations, so I am sure you will find friendship and support.
I hope your mum soon regains some of her strength and can be at home with her family. You are having a difficult time tho, as your dad is ill too. How far advanced is he with Parkinsons? Do you live with them or are you back & forwards?
Hope we can all help in some way, so that you dont feel as lost
Love HarryB x x

lesleigh

I am so sorry about your mum. I think you will find she has a similar journey with lung cancer without the chemo, than she would if she had it, but without all the side effects of chemo. Chemo is only palliative once it is advanced. It is not an exact science and it may be faster or slower, everyone is different and so much depends on other factors.
Chemo can sometimes slow things down, but it damages the body at the same time. You may find it useful to look at the other part of this site by following this link:

http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Cancertype/Lung
You will find lots of help and support on here, and as Rose said, try searching the tags for Lung, to find people in simialr situations.

Love & Hugs HarryB x

Crell,

So sorry to hear about your mum. It sounds like you are going through a nightmare. I think it would be a good idea to do a profile and then post on one of the Brain Tumour threads, where there are people who are going through similar things.
Edit: Have just read through again. Sorry. Can they put a commode and hospital bed in your mum's home for her, to make life easier? Everything she needs is supposed to be in place before they let anyone so ill go home, including any nursing care she may need.

If you search on Tags (lefthandside) for Brain, a number of topics will come up, and you can join any of them by using the "Post Reply" option at the bottom of the page. Hope you will find friends and support on here.
Big hugs xHarryBx x

Frangelina

Please dont be worried that you are pestering me, because you are not. This site is all about supporting one another through all these difficulties we all have because of the dreaded C. I also know a little about Parkinson's as my Uncle had it. I never lived with him, so of course my experience is very limited.

May I suggest that you make a profile and open it to view. This is because as you post, people will sometimes ask similar questions, and if it is all on your profile they can look there and it saves you keep repeating yourself. If you have a look at mine and a couple of others it will give you an idea. Put as much or as little as you like.
Once cancer has spread to different areas of the body, like the bones it isn't cureable sadly. However many people live with it for years. The main problem is that the bones become weak and may fracture or crumble easily, it also causes deep pain in many instances.
At the moment, I dont need physical support for my husband as he is quite able bodied. He gets very tired and can't stand, sit or walk for long, so he spends a lot of time lying down. I do need moral and emotional support, which I get from my faith, my friends, my family and by nattering away on here. Its a very emotionally draining thing as I am sure you are aware. Because of that I also started a Carers Only group which you are welcome to join.
Look on left hand side of page for Profile in blue, and also Groups.
I hope you got your decorations sorted and have a good day today
LOve & hugs HarryB x x