Hello to everyone here. I am really just reaching out to you good people for any advice or suggestions. My Dad has just had a 3rd of his tongue removed alongside his lymph nodes as he has squamous cell carcinoma. Obviously his very early after surgery but I would like to try and be well prepared and has helpful as possible for my dad and my mum as communication is going to be difficult and I think my father will really struggle with this. This may cause much frustration and stress so anything I can do to ease this I'm willing to try, buy, suggest or learn.
This is my dad's 3rd cancer and his such a brave, good ,man I'm finding it so unfair for him to endure this. Also I feel useless as I can't help make it better in anyway
Thank you for reading xx
Hi Charliebm and I see it’s the first post you have put up so a warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although I am so sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis and surgery.
This is indeed a hard time for everyone involved. I had a different treatment journey so have no experience that can help you but as you Waite fir another members to come along you may want to widen your search by copying the text from your post and putting up a new post in our Head and neck cancer group that I see you have already joined.
This will be a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and talk with others who are supporting family and friends on their treatment pathway.
When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from joining our general Family and friends group where you will connect with others who are supporting family.
Macmillan have many support platforms so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00 or via Webchat and Email too.
These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and provide support for all the family.
All the very best.
