My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer which has traveled to his Brain in January.
He has had 4 rounds of chemotherapy and is now on immunotherapy. It feels like he has given up because all he is doing is staying in our room playing games on his phone and drinking beer.
in the past few weeks his behaviour has become very verbally abusive towards me . He has gone to a solicitor and made a will and has told me that he has left me out of it because I should be sofa surfing. I’m going to lose my husband to cancer but my home as well . We are waiting on the results of a mri and ct scan
Hello ‘Karyn’
My name is Lizzie and I work in the Online Community here at Macmillan. Our team oversee Macmillan’s Online Community, ensuring the site remains safe and supportive for all our members.
I'm so sorry to hear that you're experiencing verbal abuse while also coping with your husband's diagnosis. Facing both of these challenges at the same time can feel incredibly overwhelming and emotionally exhausting. Please try to take things one step at a time and remember that your own well-being is just as important. Reaching out for support, whether from trusted friends, family, or support services, can help you feel less alone as you navigate this difficult situation.
I'm sure other members will respond with support, advice, and their own experiences. In the meantime, I wanted to reach out to offer some support and share a few links that you might find helpful.
Alongside accessing peer support from the Online Community, you’re always welcome to speak with the specialist teams on our Support Line. Teams are there to help every day from 8am to 8pm on 0808 808 00 00. You can also send an email or start a live webchat during the opening hours.
If you would like to speak to someone about the verbal abuse you’re experiencing or if you feel in danger now, you can give the Domestic Abuse Helpline a call (Women's Aid) on 0808 2000 247 for support and advice. Additionally, if you feel like you're in urgent and immediate danger at any point, we'd encourage you to call the emergency services on 999 for support.
If you feel able to, it may be helpful to speak with your GP about what you’re going through. They can offer support with any emotional concerns and discuss the options available to help you through this difficult time.
Please remember that you’re not alone in this. We hope you can find the advice and support that you need during this challenging time.
Take care,
Best wishes,
Lizzie
Macmillan Online Community Team
