My Dad was diagnosed with lung cancer late last year. He's kept a lot of the information to himself and we've had to puzzle together information to work out what stage his cancer is at and what his treatment would look like.
He has taken unwell this week and is in hospital. There is concern about the cancer having spread again and I just don't know how best to support him, and my Mum, with this. He isn't able to eat, and so practical support like doing a food shop/cooking isn't useful.
I want to be a good emotional support but am finding this hard when he doesn't feel able/want to share.
Hoping others can relate to this feeling of helplessness and offer some advice!
Hi sb210
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
Sorry to hear about your dad, it can be so difficult when you don't know all the information though of course sometimes there is not as much information as we might think.
Something I found was that in order to provide emotional support to my wife then it was important that I understood my own emotions. Helpful for this was looking at your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize those emotions and accept them as normal and valid helped me feel a little less overwhelmed.
<<hugs>>
Steve
