My father in law had just been diagnosed- lung , kidney and its in his glands . He's been in hospital now for over a month with pneumonia and he has dementia with delirium. We have been advised he has 3 months to live. I just don't know how best to support my husband through this terrible time. Sometimes I feel like I want to say things but don't want to be patronising. I lost my own dad to a sudden heart attack 13 years ago so it brings up emotions for me but I understand its not the same.
Hi Lisapink
It sounds really difficult with everything going on with your father in law and we can find it difficult to talk in these situations. We used to have some sayings on here where we talked how sometimes a simple hug can match a thousand words.
Often a key to talking can be taking a lead from your partner, it might be helpful looking at your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize these emotions and accept them as normal and valid can help to make them feel less overwhelming.
<<hugs>>
Steve
