My best friend diagnosed with lower colon cancer and liver mets this week

Hi BBF 

Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.

I am Steve one of the community champions and my experience of cancer is via my wife who has Leiomyosarcoma. 

Something I found quite helpful is looking at your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize those emotions and accept them as normal can help to make them less overwhelming. 

You are right that being heard is really important but sometimes it can be hard to let our depest feelings show, my first contact with support was via my local Maggies centre where I spent some time offloading to a complete stranger. Many find the safety of the anonymous posting on here helpful, especially as we can take a little time to tune our posts though of course we are all welcome to ring the helpline too.

<<hugs>>

Steve

I have a close friend and colleague who l see infrequently but meet with others for a special day out. The usual invitation was sent but straight after heard from another source that he was in hospital, diagnosed with Stage 4 and palliative care only. It’s a shock as he seemed fit and well. Third party says he doesn’t want texts or messages but l feel l can’t ignore him and do nothing. Please give some thoughts.

Don’t give up ,just go with the flow ,unless they tell you to worry ,my partner has the lot and has been told two years ago it’s six months .

still here they are doing so many things now ,it’s the start of a long road so just be there for her x

Everybody seems to be laughing ,happy ,planning holidays ,which we always did .

i would be devasted if anything happened to my partner but he is just so unhappy ,aggressive and picks everything out on me .

i try my best all the time but it does get you down sometimes ,I won’t leave him for long and do everything for him ,people see me strong but you become a carer and everything else is gone .