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Hi Stargirl 

Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.

I am Steve one of the community champions and my experience of cancer is via my wife who has Leiomyosarcoma.

Something I find quite helpful is looking at Your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recognize those emotions and accept them as part of my new normal can help to make them feel less overwhelming. I ended up doing a living with less stress course that really helped to.

What type of cancer does your dad have? There are lots of good stories of people being cured though for my wife that is at least currently not possible however two rounds of chemo rendered her cancer stable and it has been that way for over 10 years now. 

<<hugs>>

Steve

They know he has cancer their not sure which treatment  path to go  down yet they are having another team of doctors look at the scans to work out where it is so they can work out next steps 

My husband was diagnosed in October and the first 8 weeks I was exactly the same , crying and feeling that this was the end and nothing will be the same again.

I then went into , well this is it lets get on and live with it not die with it.

My husband is pragmatic exactly like your day. It feels at times you hold your own emotions to save them.

My tip would be to get support from a friend or someone close that isnt involved with the family, maybe use the chat forums . This is my way at the moment .

Some days it feels like its not real and then on days he doesnt feel 100% it all comes back to realisty.

Be there for him but support your own feelings too.

Thank You I might try talking to my religious leader she’s  a woman so I might feel more comfortable opening up to her about my feelings