Hello All,
I currently work and live in the UK. I went back to Singapore to surprise my parents for their wedding anniversary two weeks ago. Unfortunately, during that time, my dad was admitted into the hospital and a week later, was diagnosed with cancer in his duodenum. After laparoscopy, it was found that due to the location of the tumour, it was not possible to do a subtotal radical gastrectomy. Instead a palliative bypass was completed.
I feel absolutely heartbroken and navigating through my thoughts about how best to resume life being far proximity-wise from my dad. I am feeling all sorts of sadness and guilt, knowing that I would have to resume my life and to leave my dad for another few months (before I come back to visit again).
Oh gosh that all sounds so sudden and awful. I’m so sorry. Cancer really tears up everyone’s life around it.
Hello Mammymindere7aa6d
Thank you so much for your reply.
Yes, it is absolutely heart-breaking, and his prognosis is poor.
I am trying to garner as much support network I can, and maybe to look into counselling(?).
Yes absolutely do. It’s essential to process all this horribleness
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