My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer which has spread to the liver. We were told there was nothing they could do as chemo would do more harm than good. My dad battled throat cancer 7 years ago after intensive radiotherapy had to have a laryngectomy. Unfortunately, there was too much damage to the throat and he is PEG fed and cannot speak, eat or drink. Regardless of this his resilience and bravery has remained a constant. Today, we have now been told he also has mouth cancer. It just all feels so cruel and brutal. We don’t know how long we have left - I am heartbroken and trying to shield my kids who will be devastated. My dad said no to palliative care after the initial diagnosis of the stage 4 bowel and liver but I don’t know what he wants to do now. He didn’t want to communicate about it today which is understandable. I don’t expect anybody to read this. I just feel so broken and sad and angry. I don’t know what to expect. Cancer really is so cruel.
Hi Lyns797469
Sorry to hear about what your dad is going through and not at all surprised at the impact it has on you too. Something I find quite helpful is looking at Your feelings when someone has cancer as being able to recongize these emotions and accept them as part of our new normal sometimes helps make them feel less overwhelming.
We have quite a good guide here on talking to children and tennagers which we found quite helpful when talking to our son when my wife was diagnosed.and were lucky to get great support through his school too.
<<hugs>>
Steve
