Found out 3 days ago my dad has cancer and has months to live

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This is a complete mess of a situation and I can’t get my head around it at all. I’ve always had a strained relationship with my dad. I love him so much, but he has disappointed me categorically my entire life. We had an argument last Monday, where I told him how I felt deep down.

On Saturday I got a call from my sister to say he’d gone back into hospital (he’d been in for unknown reasons- it turns out now it was linked to the cancer.) She told me he has prostate cancer and the doctors have given him months to live. They’re not doing any treatment because it’s gone into his bones and his skeleton is now full of lesions? I still don’t fully know what that means. 

We don’t have a Mum. She exists, but none of us have a relationship with her because she is a bad person. We don’t have any extended family. It’s me and my two sisters and my dad. He didn’t have a will, but I’ve got someone going to see him in hospital tomorrow. He doesn’t have a fixed address, as he lives in a rented house share after leaving my mum. He can’t work and will never go back to work. 

I’m not sure why I’m posting this. I think I just want to dump the contents of my brain into a page right now. 

  • Blouise, that sounds complicated. I had a very complicated relationship with my father and although we loved each other very much we often clashed and had a few very painful arguments, which I mostly caused and today, although he is now gone they linger. Be nice to your dad, make your peace with him and try and avoid clashes or arguments. Take care.

  • I’m sorry you’re here.. sending hugs. Look after yourself x