hi all

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this is my second post in this forum but here's a little backstory with my struggles. 

In January i found out my mum has non-Hodgkin Lymphoma she has been having chemo since February and seems to be doing well in herself but i saw a recent picture of her taken last month at my dads birthday party and I could tell how much weight she's lost so was a bit of a shock.

It actually made me feel down as I know chemo affects your body but I don't like the changes in my mums appearance as i think it was more of a shock as i haven't seen my mum in person since December. 

Is this a normal feeling or am I overthinking it as i have a habit of this as I do also suffer with anxiety.

  • I think it's very normal to feel shocked and upset when seeing changes in our loved ones like you've described. I think especially with our parents, it's hard to see them like that. 

    It's ok to have those feelings and be anxious about them. 

  • yeah i think what doesn't help my current situation is that i only see my mum every 6 months as they live in Essex and i live in Kent.

    Past few months has been rough as I'm dealing with a lot not just with my mum but its nice to have someone say this is a normal feeling so i appreciate that.

    I also don't have the best relationship with that side of the family which makes planning to try and see my mum more difficult to do.