How to feel when you don't know how to feel.

Nichola1990 20 hours ago

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My dad is end of life. He was diagnosed a year ago with small cell.

We have had a weird relationship, not been close at all and now he's end of life. I am 34 now. I am not sure how I feel. I wondered if anyone else has had this situation?

I am doing all the right things, I am visiting when he wants to see me and texting and calling for updates. I just wondered if anyone else has been through this with a parent.

I work full time, I have all the support that I need, good friends, family and work have been great but I just don't feel anything.

Molly1961 18 hours ago

Hi Nichola

I can't speak from experience but all I can think is if your relationship between yourself and your dad hasn't been that close prior to now then I think what you are feeling is normal

You are checking on him, showing your concerns and I'm sure he will really appreciate that. You are doing what is right for you and that's ok

We are all on very difficult journeys out loved ones on theirs and us on ours. We are grieving already, either grieving for the relationships we know we are going to lose or grieving for the relationships we've never had. There is no right or wrong way to feel. Feeling empty or lost is a natural feeling, one of many on this horrible journey.

Your doing just what is right for you both and that's all you can do. Try not to look too far ahead and take each day as it comes.

Take care of yourself

Sandra

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