Grandfather diagnosis

Hi Tashah27, and a warm welcome to the forum, I am so sorry to hear about your grandad, and how desperately sad it's making you feel, and I understand you wanting to learn about your grandads illness but please don't use Google, they catastrophise everything, and lead you to the worst outcomes, use CRUK, NHS and Macmillan for your research.

As a granddad myself with cancer, I think your granddad  would love to see you all the time, and if possible try to be your usual self, do the tthings you and granddad enjoy doing if he's well enough, and try to be strong, seeing you smiling will give granddad a big lift. 

Your right about his treatment, it's not easy for him, and he will be tired and emotional, so will need the love and support of his loved ones, and favourite granddaughter more than ever, you know your granddad best, you  will know when he needs to sleep, wants to chat or needs a cuddle. Just be you, that's what granddads want the most, and don't forget to smile. My best wishes to you and granddad, and all your family 

Eddie xx 

Thankyou for your kind words and support, I plan on going to see him today and I am baking a cake for him. I just want him to be okay. x

You are very welcome, and  I'm sure you will do a wonderful job helping to look after your granddad, but if I can ever help, you know where I am, have a lovely time with granddad and enjoy the yummy cake. Tasha we have a couple of dedicated brain cancer forums, where you can talk to others going or have been through, the journey you are just starting, 

BRAIN CANCER FORUM

GLIOBLASTOMA MULTIFORME BRAIN TUMOUR FORUM

Eddie xx

Hi Tash,

I just found out yesterday too that my grandad has been diagnosed with a brain tumour, it was a nurse that broke the news but we don’t know full details yet until we get a call tomorrow however it doesn’t sound great. I am very much like you devastated and cannot stop crying. My grandad is 79. I have been non stop googling also, we don’t know know if his tumour is operable but given his age and his health I doubt this will be an option..  Sending you lots of love and prayers for your grandad x

Thankyou so much! It was so nice to see him today. He seems the same but different as silly as that sounds! I’m just trying to offer as much as I can to do things for him, especially as he’s now unable to drive. It’s such a helpless feeling but I’m hoping that little visits will help lift his spirits as much as possible. I hope you are well and taking care of yourself also!

Tasha xx

It’s such a helpless feeling, I want to help as much as I can but he’s refusing a lot of help. I don’t think he wants to feel as though he’s making anything difficult for me but I just want to support him the best I can. I’ve never lost a family member as I’ve been lucky enough for 24 years not to have lost anyone so I don’t know what to do, how to act and what to say it’s all so incredibly hard. It’s nice having people to talk to who are supportive and going through similar things. I’m sending lots of love and prayers for your grandad too xx 

Hi Tasha, you are welcome, and no it doesn't sound silly, having cancer has a big impact on all the family, but it's best to try and be as normal as possible, and granddad wants to hang on to as much independence as he can, that's why he's refusing your help, but believe me, your visits mean so much to him. I read your post to Marie1875, saying you don't know what to say or do, just try to be yourself, talk about your day, your friends but only talk about his cancer if he initiates it, and try to be yourself, the granddaughter he has always loved.

I am doing ok thank you

Eddie xx