Hi everyone. I feel so lost at the moment. My husband of 24 years was diagnosed 5 weeks ago with T4N2b base tongue and lymph cancer. Feels like our whole life has just completely changed in the blink of an eye. We’ve a young teenage son with a progressive disability so feeling so overwhelmed with what our future as a family may hold now and trying to cope with not only my husband diagnosis but our sons medical condition and his current emotional state.
I’m finding it so hard to be able to discuss my husbands condition with him as he will shut down, get angry or defensive. The “walking on egg shells” is absolutely exhausting. Is this “normal” that I feel I can’t talk openly anymore to someone I’ve spent so much of my life with? X
hi Minnie56
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it helpful being able to share with others in what is our new normal.
My wife was diagnosed over 10 years ago now and our son was quite a bit younger than yours, he has autism and as Janice's cancer was not curable I struggled to find much that did not talk about cure that I knew would not be true.
I pretty muck broke before I reached out - I walked in to our local Maggies and pretty much cried my story our fro about an hour. They helped me make a short term plan Since they I have had quite a bit more help and I find a lot of the advice in your feelings when someone has cancer quite helpful - recognizing the emotions and accepting them as normal in out situation can help them feel a bit less overwhelming. Later I did a living with less stress course that I found really helpful.
Do post on here whenever, someone is always listening but if you might find talking helpful then the helpline is open from 8am to 8pm 7 days a week - 0800 808 0000
<<hugs>>
Steve
