My mum was diagnosed with SCLC in December. She’s had 4 round of chemo and currently done 3/4 weeks of radiotherapy.
she was fine during the chemo. Didn’t have many side effects apart from losing her hair.
radiotherapy is a different matter, she’s exhausted, struggling to eat, having constant heartburn and just generally feeling crappy.
She’s supposed to start week 4 (her final week) tomorrow and she’s told me today she doesn’t want anymore treatment. She feels rubbish and she doesn’t like feeling this way.
im so worried about her. I’m trying to help she’s had 4 teaspoons of porridge in last 2 days to eat. And for a few days before that she’s only been having a bite or two of her meals. She’s not drinking very much either. She’s supposed to have a review tomorrow with the oncologist (she has one every Monday during treatment) but I know that if she is determined not to go to the hospital she won’t go.
how else can I help her? Any advice.
I hope your mum went to the appointment today and discussed the things you have talked about above. Of course the decision around treatment is hers and it can be extra difficult when we feel they do not make what we might think is the best course of treatment.
I always know when my wife is really ill when she actually wants to go to the hospital.
I know one thing I found out the hard way was that in order to be the best support for Janice I had to learn how to look after me. If we look at your feelings when someone has cancer I know I see a lot of things I recognized in me. I did a living with less stress course that really helped me and in turn that meant I was better able to support Janice.
<<hugs>>
Steve
Hi,
Going through treatment can be really rough, we are all allowed a mardy moment even us just there in support.
Hopefully the meds will help and together you find the strength to face this going forward.
<<hugs>>
Steve
