Daughter with breast cancer

Hi Momof3 

Welcome to our community though sorry to hear about what you both are going through. The thing that comes most to my mind is the saying "it never rains but it pours".

We do have a page on here about talking to children and teenagers that might be helpful, our son was fairly young when my wife was diagnosed and while things were difficult it was good for him to feel included even if it was not totally comfortable. There was quite a good book too - The Secret C and we also got a lot of support from his school. 

<<hugs>>

Steve

Hi momof3, so sorry that you find yourself here. I'm much further on the journey with my daughter, her diagnosis was eleven months ago. I was beyond desperation for the first two months, couldn't talk about it to anyone, just wanted to keep her with me and hide away - pretend it wasn't happening. Of course, I didn't do that. Eight sessions of chemo before three surgeries, a further 14 chemos now started and nearly half way through 15 sessions of radiotherapy - that's where we are now.

I still have low days and my heart breaks when my lovely daughter has days when even moving from bed to the sofa is too much. But I am coping - somehow, it becomes a way of life. You will cope too, because you need to for your daughter. You will learn to live in the moment - if it's a good day, you'll go shopping together, for a walk in the park or a cuppa and cake in a posh tea shop. We find joy in the smallest things now. You'll find a way.

These first weeks are the toughest, between diagnosis and a treatment plan getting started. Sending very best wishes for successful treatment to your daughter - and love, strength and a massive hug to you. x

Thankyou,it seems things are not moving quick enough for me,I don't know if you ever watched the Harry Potter films but the only way I can describe how I'm feeling is I've been attacked by a dementor,they suck all the happiness out of you and you feel like your never going to be happy again,I keep thing about her 2 young boys aswell x I'm sending you a hug back 

Hi momof3.  I’m so sorry you are going through all of this. My 37 year old daughter has today just had her first round of chemo for a triple negative breast cancer.  Hers is also grade 3 having spread to the lymph nodes in her armpit and chest.  The wait for appointments seemed to go on forever and was just awful.  i just cried non stop for the first few weeks.   Has your daughter got a treatment plan?   
Sending you best wishes for a positive outcome.  
Lorna x

Hi lorna123,my daughter also has triple negative cancer,she had her op last week to remove the cancer,they also took 2 lymph nodes,so it's just waiting for the results,if it comes back that it hasn't spread she will be able to start her chemo x