Only child mum dying of cancer and I’m only 35

Hi yes I am in a similar position, an only child too and my mum has cancer in her lung, some in her stomach and a piece in her brain. There has been no information from the hospital since the ED doctor said it’s hard to treat when you don’t know where it started.  I’m divorced with three grown up wonderful children but I still feel like I can’t cope without her. She’s my best friend.  I’m close to my dad but he is struggling, they’ve been together 59 years since she was 15 and he 19. I feel so angry, I’ve just had to fetch bread and I’m seeing all these much older and sicker looking people walking around. She shouldn’t be suffering this, such a terrible disease.  In 6 weeks my mum shrank to nothing, too weak to stand and couldn’t eat or drink. The GP wouldn’t even send a doctor out. I live 2.5 hours away and I’ve been asking them for years to move in and now she never will. I keep thinking of all the stuff she won’t see or do. I know it’s all raw and people come through the other side but I don’t know how. Being on here and reading other people are feeling the same does help though. 

Sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately my best friend died few weeks after finding out she had cancer. Nearly been 2 months now, I’m broken x

Hi lovely. I cannot believe your mum isn't getting any support from the hospital/NHS. I hope you don't mind me asking questions but how long has it been since the diagnosis and what area does your mum live in? If you haven't already done so I would get in touch with Macmillan about support and absolutely press her oncologist for information and what happens going forwards. Before anything else she needs medical support. I'm here if you need to chat. xx

Thank you so much.  They diagnosed her on saturday.  They live in Nottingham.  They put a tube in today to feed and are arranging a hospital bed to send her home for palliative care.  I will definitely ask about mcmillan nurses tomorrow.  I hope you are doing ok xx

I am so sorry for your loss, it’s so cruel. I hope you have professional support and chat on here whenever you need  xx

I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this! 

I lost my Dad last year and now my mum has stage 4 cancer, so at 33, I am also facing losing my only parent.

I can't imagine how that is for you as an only child, as I do have two younger sisters myself. I see that this post was a long time ago now so I imagine you might be facing a different situation. My thoughts are with you <3