My son

Stay strong for him, I went through the same with my son.He needs a lot of support and reassurance from you.What type of cancer he has.Praying for him to get rid of it ASP.

Look after yourself as well as the time as your son needs you to be in good mental health xx

Oh Mandy, I'm so sorry - for you and your son. I know exactly what you're going through. My daughter was diagnosed last July and I felt exactly as you do now. I didn't want to talk to anyone, really I just wanted to hide away with my daughter and 'make it go away'.

But that's not real life. Somehow, I managed to go with my daughter to her appointments - as you will with your son. We've shed many tears together, but I mostly do that when I'm not with her. I listen a lot and nothing is off limits to talk about - she needs to feel that she can say anything to me.

Nine months on, chemo and surgery are done, radiotherapy and more chemo to come. I'm not saying it's become easier, but it sort of becomes a way of life. Take all the support you can find, there may be a family group at the hospital where your son will be treated. 

I think you'll also find you feel more able to cope when you know what's going to happen. Once the treatment plan is in place, it's a little easier to look forward.

Keep posting here - I've found it invaluable. Sending a hug and very best wishes to you both. x

Dear Mandy and Cherry, I really feel for you both and also know exactly how you feel ~ my daughter was diagnosed with breast cancer last August and has had chemo and surgery but now its been found in one of the lymph nodes removed so she is being fast tracked for more surgery imminently ! As mothers all you want to do is make it all better and you just feel so helpless ! its hard but staying strong and positive if possible even though you feel so distraught is the best we can do and I believe it helps a lot . Sending you both hugs xx

Thank you for your reply,  Geni. I'm so sorry your daughter is facing more surgery and pray it goes well.  My daughter started her next round of chemo cycles this week. She's very tired and nauseous, but it doesn't seem quite as brutal as previous chemos. She will have a break in a few weeks for radiotherapy, not sure yet how many sessions.

As you say, as mums we just want to make everything right for our children and take away the pain. But all we can do is be there for them. It's heart breaking.

Many, how are you doing? Sending love and hugs to you both. xxx

Thankyou so much for your reply Cherry , I am so glad your daughters second round of chemo is less brutal thats good and I hope her radiotherapy goes well too . My daughter has radiotherapy ahead of her and they also mentioned oral chemo so we shall see !  Originally my daughter was told her radiotherapy was for 2 weeks Monday to Friday every day but it would take about 15 minutes but the plan may change now who knows???

Sending you and your daughter the hugest of hugs and positive vibes for the journey ahead and the warmest of wishes xxx 

It's so darn hard. My 28yo son was diagnosed with brain cancer Oct 23. The dread and anxiety you feel for them is indescribable. Try to look after yourself, drink water, eat, you know the stuff that's feels really hard to do right now. I didn't believe it but that still feeling does gets manageable, most of the time. My heart goes out to you all. {{{Hugs}}}

Hi LaMama, so sorry you've had to join this club nobody wants to belong to. My daughter is struggling with the beginning of a further year of chemo.- side effects are different this time but equally unpleasant. Radiotherapy starts in two weeks time. It's a never ending circle of worry.and hospital appointments for scans, tests, consultations and treatments. I still have days when desperation overwhelms me but you are right - somehow, it does become part of your life and you do learn to manage it.

Sending you and your son love, strength and the biggest hug. xx

Hi LaMama, you're right we have to keep strong for them it's such a hard road for them and they need us . Staying positive and looking after ourselves is so important . Biggest of hugs back to you and your son and lots of positive vibes xx