Hi
my mum was taken into hospital 3 weeks ago with digestive problems, we learned yesterday that it is cancer which has spread from the windpipe to liver and bones. They are having a meeting on Monday but it seems that any ‘treatment would be only to make her comfortable.
I have been to see her today and after about an hour said she wanted me to go - she’d asked to get back into bed and needed her pads changed. I said I would come back after she’d been changed, although we’ve never been overly private like that, but she said no and for me to go to work. I hugged her and said to tell me if she needed anything and I also asked the nurses to contact me if she seemed lonely or distressed. she is very down and isn’t eating - dietician is giving her some shakes and considering a feeding tube.
my question is do you think I should insist on staying or should I have gone back anyway. I don’t want to distress her in any way and I know she needs to rest but I also feel she is being selfless and wanting me to concentrate on my children and work whereas I just want to support her. I just don’t know what to do.
my dad was going in the afternoon so it maybe made sense for her to rest and to see him but I’d hate for her to feel like she would want someone with her but is saying in don’t worry about me when of course we are all extremely worried.
I asked her about if she’d like me to ask for a wheelchair and take her outside for a little while but she said no. I’m hoping that the shakes or feeding will help her mood and to make her feel stronger but I just want to support her and be there for her in the best way I can be.
thanks for reading
