Mum just been diagnosed with bowel cancer

Hi tinkxx44  so sorry to hear about your mum. I’ve been in the same situation as you and it’s very difficult. You just have to try and be there for your mum as much as you can and try and do anything you can to help her out (could be little things like making a cup of tea or doing washing to help out etc). Maybe you could suggest doing something together that you enjoy doing to try and cheer her up a little? Nothing is going to make the situation any better at the moment but you just have to be grateful you have each other.

Sorry to hear that you are struggling, it’s very rubbish and upsetting but you will start to process it and come to terms with what is going on. It will always be very upsetting seeing someone you love be ill but as cheesy as it sounds it does get easier. 

sending you and your mum love 

Hi tinkxx44

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis and I know how hard it is to process it. You've had a huge shock and it's going to take time to get your head round it.

3 weeks ago my daughter was diagnosed with cervical cancer and, for a couple of days, we were all in a sort of melt down, scared and sad and overwhelmed with the magnitude of it all. Gradually though we started to get to grips with it all, The thing is there's so much that can be done for people diagnosed with cancer nowadays. If you just read through some of the posts on the forums here you can see there are so many people having their lives saved, or greatly extended by the treatments that are available.

For those of us supporting someone we love there's a tricky balance between being there when they need us and backing off when they need there own space and sometimes all we can do is listen while they talk about their fear and shock and despair. We can't always make them feel better and that's a very hard thing to deal with.  After the initial diagnosis my daughter had a CT and MRI scan to see if there was any spread and today she met the surgeon who will be operating, everything was explained to her and she had a chance to ask any questions she had. Most cancer sufferers seem to have a similar pathway and, once you have a treatment plan, you do feel better, or at least that's what I've found. 

In the meantime look after yourself and just try and take life one day at a time for now. I'm sending you a cyber hug xxxx