Struggling even though news encouraging

Hi Kat55 

If we look at our pages on after treatment we can see that the sort of issues you are talking about are really rather common, not perhaps the most helpful but al least it helps to make us "normal" - whatever normal might mean.

As a carer I feel too the "why my loved one". Nobody ever expects cancer to enter their life despite how common we know the stupid thing is. We often get in to a sense of grief for that ideal life we lost.

For your young one - how are they coping? We have a guide on talking to children that might be helpful. We have a son who has lived with his mum being in an out of hospital for most of his life but together we manage - with the right help of course, especially our friends on here.

<<hugs>>

Steve

I'm feeling exactly the same about my mum's ovarian cancer currently. I feel that the word 'positive' is an overused word because it can lose its meaning - 'cautiously optimistic' is a better way to describe how people should feel. 

There's nothing wrong with having a good cry about your feelings - cancer makes loved ones emotionally tired and having lived under covid restrictions in some shape or form in the last three years should teach people that it's OK not to be OK. For me, I'm feeling like I'm in the dark because as an adult daughter, I should be one of the first people to know anything relating to her cancer and her treatment and yet, I overheard something quite important relating to my mum when my sister and I should have been told first. To me, it's a massive deal to know because it gives me structure and something to aim for.

I also believe it's important to be honest with children and for them.to be told in an age appropriate way - I have a 7 year old and have told her about my mum's cancer in a child appropriate way.