My Ex-husband has just been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. Bowel, lung and liver. He is 37. But has lived a very poor lifestyle for a long time as a drug addict. So as much as they haven’t said it, researching it telling me it’s terminal. They haven’t given him a prognosis. Only that they can treat. Not cure.
He has just started chemo, but on second session did bloods and have flagged his kidneys which they have MRI scanned. Waiting on results. But we are thinking it may have spread again. He has declined very quickly. And I’m sure the bowel cancer was present when I was still married 5 years ago but he just ignored and left untreated, hence how it has got to this.
our daughter is 8, he hasn’t seen or spoken to her in 4 years. She knows nothing of this. She is happy and settled in life and school.
I have messaged him as I’m obviously heartbroken. But he hasn’t asked to see or speak to our daughter still. Which I think is probably best
am I doing the right thing by her? I just want to protect her as much as I can for as long as possible. It’s just me and her.
Has anyone else had this diagnosis and come through? Especially as now possibly in kidneys too?
I don’t know if I am doing the right thing for?
is he going to be ok?
Hi LucyJayne
Sorry to hear about your husband, my experience with cancer is very different and in my case my wife was very clear she did not want a prognosis. We could look at the survival stats for bowel cancer but the best that gives is a probability of surviving more or less than five years.
I wonder if if might help you to talk to one of the staff on our helpline on 0808 808 00 00 (open 7 days a week, 8am to 8pm.
<<hugs>>
Steve
