I’m so scared. Going to lose my mum

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My mum has just been diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. It was only 3 weeks ago she was worried about her nipple inverting.

She had a biopsy a few days later. The results showed breast cancer and they suggested a mastectomy but also sent her for a CT scan. 

The CT results have shown it’s spread to her lungs and liver. There is no option to cure it and they have cancelled her mastectomy as a result. I don’t understand this. They say it won’t change the outcome but surely leaving the original cancer in place let’s it spread faster?

I am so confused and scared. Surely there has to be something that can be done. I can’t bear the thought of losing my mum. My children are still babies, they need a grandmother. 

  • I'm so so sorry to read this. I can't say anything helpful about the cancer but I feel your pain so much. I'm so worried about losing my mum, it's not definite yet in my case but things aren't looking good. The pain is unbearable, I don't know what I'll do without her. I just keep telling myself that people do get through this, but I don't really believe it. I wish you and her all the best (that sounds so trite and I'm sorry but I don't know how to say it). xxx

  • Hi there babe I’m so sorry to read your post. My mum has also recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and it has spread to her lymph nodes and everything just seems to be going really really fast without having a moment to take a breath and take any of it in. I have three kids and they need their nan too it can’t be happening right. Please if you want to talk send me a message because the reason I’m here is that I’m feeling so lost and devastated too. Would be good to talk with someone going through the same hell maybe we could go through it with an open ear and a willing shoulder. I have cried more since she was diagnosed a few weeks ago than I probably ever have and I’m 39. Here if you need anything xxx

  • Hello just read this as I’m here going through the same thing I see you posted 2 years ago can I ask what happened?