Hi, I am just making a little post to help me come to terms with everything that's going on in my life. My sister is in remission (thank goodness), my dad is waiting for surgery for his slow-growing cancer and my mum has been diagnosed today with an aggressive but treatable cancer. She will be getting intense surgery early next month for her cancer and they say it's been caught early but I am just scared and sad. I am trying to be strong for my family and especially for her and this seems more serious and life-changing than the cancer my dad and sister have had.
It's been a really really hard few years and the knocks keep on coming, but I am a positive person and someone who lives in hope. The doctors and nurses have been so good to my family and are being so good to my mum. It's just hard being the one person who hasn't had cancer and, well, I feel like the odds are probably against me in getting something in my lifetime. I feel like there might be some guilt there in me because I haven't had cancer but everyone around me has. We are a very close-knit family and I live with my parents, so I am glad to be here during this time. It's just hard because I've had dreams to move away and work on my career and experience the world around me, and maybe I will still get to do that as I'm still relatively young.
I'm trying to take care of myself, but the months ahead are scary and I don't know what all the treatment will do for my mum. I just hope she comes out of it cancer-free.
Hi Bluebell44
Sorry to hear about what your whole family are going through but on the other hand glad you found our little family here because we all get it. As for the idea of getting something in your lifetime - you are right but of course just about everyone will get something and sometimes more than one thing at the same time - for our GP's that makes their job even more tricky.
I did a living with less stress course that really helped me, the mindfulness bit of living in the here and now was really helpful since I could often imagine things being much worse than they really turned out. Of course then things come that I never expected and the conscious breathing tips really help to keep the emotions under control while I deal with those. Transcendental meditation though did not really work for me - but that was fine too.
The emotions you mention are really very common and sometimes just recognizing that can help give us the power to control them.
<<hugs>>
Steve
