Hi all.
I have turned to macmillan as I am so mixed up.
My dad has been diagnosed with terminal cancer with a 6-9 month prognosis.
He has never really been around. For most of our lives he has been in and out. We have never really had a proper relationship, however his diagnosis has completely floored me. I don't know how I'm supposed to think or feel. On one hand I want to scream and shout at him that this is unfair. On the other hand I want to hug him and hold him close for as long as he has left.
I just don't know anymore.
Hi CatA1
So sorry to hear about your dad, I know many people have the reaction of cancer being unfair but then perhaps that is true of life more generally too.
Sometimes a cancer diagnosis brings people closer together but I have also seen some patients not wanting to be a bother or not wanted to be treated differently and so try to keep the diagnosis secret for as long as possible. I hope you and your dad can find a path that you both feel comfortable with.
You might be interested in looking at Your feelings when someone has cancer where you can see how common many of our feelings are.
<<hugs>>
Steve
