Hello everyone
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. My dad was diagnosed with mouth cancer in May 2020 and between now and then he has had a major operation to remove half his jaw, had a bone removed from his leg to make a new jaw and had an intensive course of radiotherapy. In March of this year the cancer had returned in the same place so Dad had further surgery to remove the tumour and muscle on the side of his neck but wasn’t able to have radiotherapy again as it was in the same area. We found out yesterday the cancer has returned again at a very fast rate, surgery and radiotherapy aren’t an option so we are waiting to find out if dad can have chemotherapy but this would be palliative care as they cannot cure dad anymore
i am absolutely terrified what is going to happen to him. As I’m sure most people do, our family see our dad as a hero even before cancer. He is the most amazing, selfless, kind, funny person in the whole world who puts everyone before himself. How can this happen to him? How can we even process the thought of being without him? How do we carry on with ‘normal’ life when we are so frightened of losing him? I have suffered with depression for 9 years and I am ashamed to admit I have wished for something to happen to me before and I would give anything to trade places. I wish more than anything it was me
I don’t really know what I am asking. I just need to write down how I feel. If anyone has any suggestions of what I can say to dad to support him and my mum. He doesn’t want us to be soppy and all lovey with him so I just don’t know what to say.
Thank you again x
