Hi all, brand new group member here!
My dad was diagnosed with incurable lung cancer a couple of months ago. He’s really been through the mill since then, had Covid and bacterial pneumonia at the same time. He’s been in and out of hospital and although the hospitals are great, he always thinks he’s going in there to die and never come out.
He’s a proper northern working class bloke and I’ve never seen him cry until a couple of weeks ago. He’s holding so much in, but I can see it all over his face that he’s absolutely broken. But he refuses to accept ANY help.
I’m sure I’m not the only one worried about someone with cancer who is all clammed up. He’s on treatment etc, but I worry mostly about his mental state. Any tips on prising the shell open would be hugely welcomed.
Thank you all.
Hi and welcome to the community.
Talking about cancer can be very important but can be really difficult to do with someone we love. If might help him to talk to one of the advisors on our helpline. For me when my wife was diagnosed I found our local Maggie's centre to be a real haven.
Sometimes of course we want to talk about anything other than cancer, hospitals and all the rest because they are still that person we love. In terms of hospitals I wonder if their might be something in past history there.
I know when my parents were ill they tended to push me away as they did not want to be a bother - like that was ever going to work.
<<hugs>>
Steve
Thanks Steve. Someone else has suggested Maggies and I know that they’re brilliant so I think I’m goIng to try and follow up that avenue.
I do think there’s an element of not wanting to be a bother but that’s definitely not washing with me haha.
Thanks for getting in touch. Really appreciate it 
