Worried upset and feel useless dad has gone down hill

Hi there 

I know exactly how you are feeling I’m struggling with my emotions too. My mum has terminal ovarian/peritoneal cancer and she is refusing chemotherapy. I’m trying to be strong for her and my two teenage daughters. I’m the only child as lost my brother 2 years ago so feel a lot of the pressure is on me to be strong for everyone.  I guess it’s nice to know that others feel the same. I’ve only just joined this group to try and find some support. My heart goes out to you 

So sorry to hear about your mam...my brother hasn't even bothered to ask or see me or my family since dad's diagnoses in Nov 10th last year.. he's more bothered about drugs and drink... so it's more pressure on me... I am just at the stage now where.. I don't know how much more I can take... but all we can do is be there... my 2 kids have autism aswell so they really don't know whats going on.. we have explained to them thou... but I'm here if u need to talk or rant either on here or my private messages big hugs to u nd ur family xxxx

Aww I’m so sorry to hear this seems your struggling with support aswell. Must be so challenging having to support your children with autism aswell. My heart really does go out to you.  I guess for me it’s the not knowing how long she will have as nobody has actually given us any idea of life expectancy yet. All we get is it is the aggressive type and it has metastised. I am just trying to take each day as it comes but it really is an emotional roller coaster xx 

We got told he was terminal on 21of Dec last year and consultant give us a time limit aswell... but it all.seems real now as he's all yellow drawn in really tired etc and now the pains.. has set in he couldn't have chemo op or radio as the time they caught it it had spread past the prostate threw his bones ribs hips etc... the testosterone injections were working.. but we r at that stage now where he's getting pains in his bones etc so we had to call doc yesterday he's refused morphine so docs giving him alternative..  he's stubborn thou lol.. xxx

Your dad sounds like a real fighter! My mum is the same won’t take pain relief unless she’s in agony!! They really do try us sometimes!  It’s so difficult isn’t it trying to help the ones you love and wanting to protect them and keep them with us for as long as possible.  It must be so hard for you hun seeing your dad so poorly sending big hugs to you. I hope your dad will take the medication to keep him comfortable.  Xxx 

He is a fighter but... its taking a toll on him now... I agree they do test us but we can only do what we can really... but it's also heartbreaking for us to see aswell... even the strong gets tired thankyou I will try my best to make sure he does... I hope your mam is comftable to xxxx

Good morning I hope that today is a good day for you hunni. I just find each day a ball of worry xx