Hello, it's my first time posting here.
My mum was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer stage 1-2, just over two years ago. The last 6 months I feel she's become more poorly, pain wise, bowel problems and sickness. She bravely tried chemo but her body could not handle it, she was so ill. My mum was offered radiotherapy and with success this had helped, but for personal reasons and other health problems my mum chose not to have an operation to try and remove the tumour.
I guess I am writing here because I need comfort, my mum has been in and out of hospital lately and to date she's back in there (has been for 10 days) as she now has ascites around her lungs. She's ill being drained from fluid, bag 23 now
She has been too unwell to have a scan to see if their maybe a clot on her lung, she tried too, but she just couldn't lay for an hour still.
I know and I feel her tumour has spread, she cannot eat, being sick even though she has anti sickness tablets, cannot sit up due to pain and spasms. I can't visit her due to only 1 visitor, and thaterson has to be the same person
so its been my dad seeing her for the 1 hour he's allowed.
What makes a lot harder and painful is her wedding and engagement ring was stolen whilst she was having a procedure. Pals are really no help as they have said they don't deal with theft, so I guess my dad and I will go to the police. That closeness from my mum which I would of had when she passes has gone, those rings were so precious with memories. It was theft as her rings were put in tissue paper then locked in her medication box. When they went to put her rings back on, they were gone? But like medication box was locked up and rings and tissue were gone. No paper work filled out, of who it was who took them off. Doesn't make sense, a patient next to my mum had her ring tapped up for the same procedure. My mums fingers are full of arthritus, must of hurt her to try and get them off. I just want to hug her so badly, and comfort her. I miss her, I feel so angry football matches tennis matches etc are going ahead, but I can't visit my mum.
Lifes so cruel
I am so, so sorry to read this. There is absolutely nothing I can say that will make this any easier. As with all things, time is a healer but that will make no difference to the way you feel at the moment. I hope you get to see your mum soon. Life is cruel but you are not alone. Sending hugs xx
Ahh thank you, sending hugs back to you xx
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