My grandfather has just been diagnosed with cancer and I just don't know how I feel and what to do. I'm just so scared all the time as we need to wait for more tests before treatment and I don't know how to tell people I'm struggling. Only one friend knows and she's been a blessing but I domt want to tell all my friends as I dont want them to see me differently as someone who constantly needs help or sympathy. This might seem like a rant, maybe it is but I just wanted to shout this out to someone somewhere so it's not on my chest
Edit July 16
We just found out that its terminal and I'm beyond devasted. Only a handful of people know this and I have others asking how I am on a day to-day basis without knowing the diagnosis. How can I say that I'm not okay. That one of the most important people in my life is dying without wanting the pity that comes with it? I struggle most days now to even relax as my mind is always racing does anyone have any advice one how to relax?
Hi @radio,
Your e-mail does not seem like a rant at all. Any cancer diagnosis creates waves for all that love and sometimes we all need some to let that out. I know what you mean about sympathy too or even worse pity - it is really not that helpful. One of the things my wife hates is when someone says how brave she is - or even says how do you cope - what do they expect us to do.
Do post on here whenever you need to let something out because we have all been there and understand. Tests, treatment etc is often really difficult and things often seem to be taking forever.
<<hugs>>
Steve
