Hi everyone,
I'm new to the group. My moms just been diagnosed with womb cancer grade 2. My dad died 8 years ago from cancer when I was in my teens which was very difficult. I think my mums going to be ok long term but I'm just not coping with processing this. I live a few hours away so I can't be there all the time, although I've been there for appointments and to see her a few times over the last month. I'm just terrified of losing my mum too, but don't want to crowd her with my emotions. I've told work about it and they're very supportive, but I just feel like I can't focus on anything else. Anyone got any advice?
Thanks all,
Rachel
Hi Rachel1117
Welcome to the forum, I am really sorry to read that you lost your dad to cancer 8 years ago and that more recently your Mum has been diagnosed with grade 2 Womb Cancer. It is understandable to be terrified, it is natural to not be able to focus on other things at this time.
Coping with processing something like this does not happen overnight, dealing with your worst fears as the continue to circle in your mind is I feel the main focus for you at this time. so as you have asked for advice I hope you don't mind if I give you some.
1, Hang on to every day you have... you don't have to physically be somewhere to be there, in these days of technology you can be in several places at the same time, use this technology to your advantage
2. Acknowledge your fears, you have a right to be frightened, but do not let them define you, or ruin the life that you and Mum have.
3. Take the time to process, without beating yourself up, processing takes time
4. Live in the now... try as hard as you can to not worry about something until it truly needs to be worried about... by this I mean, you have stated that you think your Mum will be ok long term, and if that is correct, then being terrified of losing her is the natural feeling on losing a loved one whether it is now or later, that means you Love her. She and you are both here, hopefully for a long time yet.
Finally... know that everything you are feeling is a healthy reaction to some seriously shocking news.
We are here for you if you need us.
Lowe'
