New to the group… Everything was perfect and all of a sudden my mother felt unwell and her stomach swelled up. Next she was diagnosed with stage 2 stomach cancer which then turned out to have started as ovarian cancer.
The cancer had originally started in her ovaries and spread to her stomach and bowl lining. Unfortunately since her first diagnosis in February the cancer has now reached stage 3. She has also been diagnosed with kidney disease and heart failure.
She’s only 67 and I am doing my best along with my father and three sisters to be positive and supportive but I have never felt so much anger and confusion in my entire life. I’m only 25 and feel like I need to start looking for answers as to why has this happened to my mother?
I am absolutely petrified that the outcome will only get rapidly worse. Trying to stay positive and make as many memories as possible but it’s becoming a real struggle accepting the situation and my anger.
Hi @Miller101 and welcome to our community.
I am sure we all wish that "being positive" bit was nearly as easier to deliver as it is to write. Some days as just rubbish.
We often describe part of the process of a cancer diagnosis as pre-grief - the sense of loss of the life we had planned. There is a fairly common model that gives 5 stages to grief - Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance.
Sometimes it is easy to ask "why me" but perhaps by the point of acceptance we get to "why not". I have found so many people affected by cancer in my real world who came and shared and we managed to support each other - because it can be really tough.
You might find some help in our pages on supporting a family member with cancer.and do post on here whenever - we understand because we are all in the same boat in a way sometimes people we know really well just do not understand.
<<hugs>>
Steve
