I am the mum of a 42 year old with secondary bone cancer, her first scan after starting treatments showed she was responding. We are now waiting for results of the second one , I am so anxious thinking about what the results will be every waking moment. I want to be strong for her and really do try hard to be positive. Does anyone have any advice they can give for this anxiety ? This is going to be every 3 months for now and I know she must be anxious also which is more important to deal with.. I feel so guilty as I should be thinking about her waiting for results more than me.
If only "I want to be strong" was as easy to do as it is to write we might all be on a very different path.
A quick search on here for scanxiety shows hundreds of people in the same boat - https://community.macmillan.org.uk/search?q=scanxiety&category=forum
I ended up doing a living with less stress course that really helped me. Sharing on here can be quite helpful too. I learnt (the hard way) that no amount of worry will make any difference to the result for my wife - except when I made myself unwell it gave her something else to worry about.
I think Randy Armstrong summed it up rather nicely “Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.”
<<hugs>>
Steve
