Was told my mother has cancer again after being in remission for just over a year. I really don’t know how to cope with the news. I feel selfish for crying because it’s not me going through it but I feel upset for her because we are so close. I’m struggling to know how I should feel which is making me feel more upset. Everything feels so dark at the moment and I feel very alone even though I have people around me. I feel like AGAIN?! really?? I’m not sure how to cope with this and I know I’m allowed to feel what I feel it’s all very overwhelming. Not sure how I’m going to cope going through this again it really isn’t fair
you are not selfish at all, i have just found out my mum has cancer for a third time and its got harder each time, its spread this time so operating isn't an option currently.
I know exactly how you are feeling and i am happy to chat at any point, why our mums? its not fair is it.
It’s not fair at all they don’t deserve it and it breaks my heart that she’s going through it when she hasn’t done anything to deserve this. I’m sorry to hear about your mum it really is one of the hardest things to go through. How do you cope day to do with it? I feel okay when I’m with people but when I’m on my own even for 5 minutes I find myself crying and feeling sick to my stomach
take care
Megahn
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