I’m looking for advice as my girlfriend has just found out her mum has cancer. I’ve read a bit about what to do, say and what not to if you’re trying to help but I’m worried I might say or do the wrong thing or become too overbearing in my efforts to show support.
My girlfriend won’t let me hug her so I hold her hand or just tell her I’m there for her. Right now that’s all I can do but I’m very worried about her because she read something about her mum’s diagnosis and I think reality might have hit her on reading it. I think she believes this will be the end and she doesn’t want to lose her mum.
I’m trying to be as helpful as I can right now but at times it’s like my girlfriend doesn’t want to know me, gets angry, ignores me. Then out of nowhere she welcomes me. She rang me this morning and she spoke about things for quite some time and my heart aches for her because I don’t like seeing her so upset.
What way do I be? What’s too much and what’s too little? I want to help her so much. I know I can’t magic it all away but I feel like my hands are tied in supporting or comforting her. I even feel selfish asking for advice in this community.
