My girlfriend just found out her mum has cancer

Sorry to hear your girlfriend is going threw this.... your not being selfish at all... your doing a amazing job in.what your doing already... my dad has got terminal.prostate cancer and has up.too 2 years or shorter... I pushed my friends away or go quiet aswell... maybe your girlfriend needs to process everything in and doesn't mean to push you away... my advice too you is just keep doing what your doing... as she needs you more than ever take one day at a time... hope this has helped xx

Thank you so much for the advice. It helped more than you know. 

Glad I helped... remember 1 day at a time xx

Thanks Kelly. I will. 

Hiya, I have also just found out my Mum has cancer this week too and my Husband is probably feeling the exact same. He is trying very hard to be there for all of us and I couldn't go through all of this without him. As someone has said already she is probably still trying to process it all and get her head around it, because that is exactly how I feel. Just let her know day or night you are there for her no matter what it is and let her know she's not alone your with her every step of the way, that alone will bring her more comfort than you realise. I'm sorry your girlfriend and her Mum are going through this as well. 

Thank you. This is so horrible seeing her like this. I hope you’re okay too. 

My girlfriend has stopped shutting me out now. We’re taking small steps until she finds out exactly where the primary cancer is and what treatment plan is available. Her mum has a lump in her neck which is secondary cancer and they don’t yet know where the primary is. She told me if it’s breast cancer there’s more hope but if it’s something else then.... she’s so scared. I cry when she’s not there and it’s because of the pain she’s feeling and I don’t like it because I love her. She said she wants to be on more solid ground before she can open up to me fully again. I’ve felt rejected and I felt she’d emotionally detached herself from me at the start but from getting advice on here, secretly, and talking to my girlfriend, I now know the reasons why. Thanks to both of you for your help and I hope you’re as okay as can be during your own battles. 

We are all.going threw the battles... with mam dads partners or loved ones.... I'm glad your girlfriend has started to open up to you and you understand... things alot more clearer now... I hope your girlfriends mam can get the help she needs.... one day atna time nd your welcome xxxxxxx

Hello... so sorry to hear about your mam... I honeslty know how you feel as I'm.going threw it with my dad unfortunately my dad's is terminal... and the out come isn't good but I'm here for you to if u ever want to off load... weather its here or private message... one day at a time lovely take care xxxx

Hey, i am someone who has just found out my mum is going through cancer for a third time and i can assure you your partner knows you are doing your best, my partner tells me he feels helpless and just wants to do whatever i need him to, but its as easy as just being there, taking on the chores, running her a bath, making her giggle, trying to keep things as normal as possible, your her rock right now.. trust me your doing amazing!