Hi,
In February 21 me, mum and my sister were hit with the shock that mum has lung cancer that has spread to her lympthnotes and hip bone.
February she has 5days of radiotherapy to help ease the pain on her hip bone.
March the oncologist confirmed mum would be perfect for chemotherapy and immunotherapy every 3 weeks...... mum had her first round 3 weeks ago today and it has been down hill. The chemo has attacked her kidneys and caused her to need numerous blood transfusions, daily steroids, fluids and antibiotics. The damage to her kidneys caused worrying confusion.
The oncologist has now confirmed that this treatment isnt right for mum and pain management only will be the way forward.
Me, mum and Sister are numb not only for this outcome but as mum is in hospital still and we cant be with her.
We want to know how long we have with mum will the oncologist say?
Hi sorry to hear about your mum and the impact it has had on both you and your sister,
Prognosis - now long - can be quite a difficult subject and one my wife was always clear she did not want to know. The oncologist should respect your mum's wishes on that although sometimes they will consent to tell someone else.
As others have pointed out it is at best a guess based on averages, so unless there is a pressing need many think it a question best avoided. It took me a while to accept my wife's decision not to have a prognosis. In our 6 years on here though we have seen every option under the sun including someone with a long prognosis dying in a car crash.
Covid makes everything much more complex and I hope you are able to keep in touch with your mum even if you do not get to visit in person.
<<hugs>>
Steve
