Shock terminal diagnosis for Mum

Hi @samg1991 and welcome to the community though so sorry to hear about your mum.

Any cancer diagnosis is a shock and just like any shock we need time to process our thoughts and emotions. My wife never wanted a prognosis when she got her diagnosis and often it is at best not very helpful - but I struggled with that.

Our cancer journey has been longer - over 6 years now. I have seen many people outlive a prognosis, some die early - sometimes from something totally unrelated, and some seem to die almost to order.

Waiting for a treatment plan is probably one of the hardest times of all, we all hear that early treatment is often more effective but mostly that is to encourage people to talk to the GP in the first place - we are both a long way past that stage.

Well done for posting, there will be people just like you who will take comfort from your words just to know they are not alone - people like us, we all care for each other.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Hi Steve, 

Thanks for your kind words. I’m so sorry about your wife. 

Mum was discharged today following a biopsy yesterday which went well. The Drs will be discussing the results on Wednesday and putting a treatment plan together. 

From her discharge notes, I’ve deduced that it’s in her lung, lung lining, lymph nodes, liver, kidney and spine, which suggests it’s more advanced. The staging is T2a N1 M1c.

Mums ok with it all, well as you can be. She’s ok with the idea of dying and such, obviously we never would’ve thought it would be so soon.

She had no previous signs that anything was wrong. She’s only been unwell for the past few weeks but initially the GP thought that was because she’d ripped her muscles performing CPR on my Grandad, who passed away in January.

it’s one of those... I know we don’t have very long left with her. She knows it’s bad but not how short that time may be. That’s one thing that catches in my throat right now; how to make the most of that time without overwhelming her. I’m also worried about how I’ll cope as she does deteriorate while knowing that I’ll have to suck it up, as it were and take care of her.