Hi everyone, I'm new to the group. Just been sat here looking through some of the discussions and the support is just amazing.
My Dad is currently going through chemotherapy, he will be starting his 3rd round next week, which is a drip then he takes 4 tablets daily for 3 weeks, then a weeks break. He is doing amazing, he has the odd bad day but overall he's doing so well.
Dad found out about his cancer after having major surgery last November, on something completely irrelevant - an aortic aneurysm. The surgeon didn't like the look of his appendix so they removed it, low and behold it was cancer.
For me, I'm feeling so confused and left in the dark. I'm completely clueless to it all, I haven't a clue what his chemotherapy is called, what stage the cancer is, is it treatable, nothing. My parents aren't the type of people to talk about their emotions and I feel like they would keep some information from me to protect my feelings but I'm struggling because I have so many questions. I'm too scared to ask questions because it results in my parents getting their backs up with me so I don't want to cause more upset than needed. Dad will be having a scan when he comes to his 4th round so we will know more then but honestly at the moment I feel completely overwhelmed - I'm a mum of 2 young boys, in my first year of a social work degree at university, plus the pandemic, it's all just a little too much
I feel better already by writing this
Hi
I am sure your parents will be massively proud of you and probably think it better to keep you at arm's length to let you support your children and your course work - perhaps the problem with that for you is your course is quite likely to highlight the importance of keeping talking.
There is quite a lot of information on here around talking about cancer that might help you and your parents more towards something that works for you both. It can help to discuss how you feel when you are kept in the dark as I am sure you can imagine things much worse thatb they might be in reality - fear of the unknown can be the worst of all.
Do post on here whenever - someone is always listening and we recognize most situations because we have been there too.
<<hugs>>
Steve
