Losing a parent

Hi Lynn, I’m really sorry to hear of your Dad’s passing it is so hard to lose someone so close to you. I can’t say anything that will make it better but I hope you know your feelings are valid and you are allowed to feel all these different emotions right now. My mum has terminal cancer so I know some of the heartache you are experiencing. I hope your Dad is no longer in pain and that you will be okay. Xxx

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news , I am going to be where you are soon , my mum ( my world ) was out of the blue diagnosed with LC stage 4. It rocked our family. I cant imagine how you cope or face the day , I truly admire you for that. I couldn't understand my changing feelings so I did some research , its called antipatory grief. This explains so much. I dread the future. My thoughts go out to you massively xx

I too am in the same boat , my mum ( my best friend) was diagnosed with LC in November, it’s now spread to her brain , she’s stage 4 terminal, she’s 68 and I’m 36. I don’t know what the future holds and am scared to think about it. It’s too much , I can’t bare it . I honestly don’t know what I’m going to do without her . I lost my dad when I was 27 to a brain haemorrhage. This life’s so cruel 

I so feel your pain. Im so sorry you are feeling how you are , you've probably got so many mixed emotions , scared , anger , hurt , bitterness , I sometimes feel its not real that I'm in a dream. I look at other people and think why isn't it you. Ive secretly recorded her voice , I play out her funeral , rehearse what ill say. I cry , im worried I will become bitter towards people. I dread the phone going. The emotions are the hardest. Ive 4 grown up children , a full time job and 2 grandchildren , every mothers day , birthday its like is this her last. There is no one to turn to , to discuss all these feelings too xx

Exactly!! I am very angry , sad and bitter all at the same time. I feel really hard done to and my mum and dad are the kindest ppl , they’d help anyone, give anyone their last pound. I’m starting to get really resentful towards ppl because they still have their parents , I know it’s wrong but I really can’t help it. I think I’m turning into a bitter, horrible person which is just not me at all 

Morning. I know exactly how you feel I really do. I feel all of these , I did some research and it called Anticipatory Grief. Look it up. I was relieved to find out my feelings are normal. When people moan about colds etc I find myself thinking what are you moaning for , try having terminal cancer. I find the cancer adverts seem to be on all the time. Everything just stands out xxx