My BIL has recently been diagnosed with a brain tumour. It is stage 4 and inoperable. There is treatment he can have but it won't cure him. It would just make what time he has unbearable. So he's decided not to have treatment. He's got 2 - 3 months. This man has been part of my family since I was 5 years old - nearly 50 years. He drives me mad, there's been times when I've hated him, but he's my brother.
The last 5 years have been shit for me and my family because of cancer. It has been non stop. As well as this I also have two friends currently battling cancer.
My mum died of it about 3 and half years ago.
Today I feel completely overwhelmed. I need my mum but she's not here. The people I would go to next are suffering too. I have sobbed my heart out for the umpteenth time this evening and i just needed to write it down. I don't really need advice just someone who understands what it's like.
I'm so sorry this is happening in your life . Cancer is just shit. I totally understand. I too feel completely overwhelmed with sadness . My husbands prognosis has just changed and he is now end of life with an estimate of 3 months left. We're both 53 yrs old and have known each other since the age of 11 at senior school. The pain is indescribable. I know you dont want advice and I have none to give. Just know that theres always someone who understands. I wish you all the best.
Thank you Jules. You must be feeling a million times worse than me. I'm so sorry. The pain of being left behind can be unbearable. Thank god we have places like this to turn to.
Xxx
Elenium
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