I never thought I’d have to post in one of these groups. My dad was diagnosed with throat cancer last year, I was 20, and in uni, I deferred my final year and moved in with him to help out.
In January we were told he was in remission, so I found student accommodation and reapplied for university which starts again next Month. Last month my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer. He has refused to have any treatment and has changed into a different much angrier person. As I’m the only person in the house I take the brunt of his anger, he regularly says I don’t care, I’m awful, he’s just going to lie there and die.
im supposed to move out in 4 weeks, to continue with my university course. I don’t want to leave him alone, but I also don’t want to live with him anymore, as he is so angry all the time. It has been so bad lately that I have considered leaving and staying at my mums house, but I feel so guilty about leaving him alone.
im worried that If I keep living with him, and taking his anger that I’m going to end up hating him, and I don’t want to remember him as this angry person he has become.
Oh my love I am so sorry . My dad has terminal lung cancer and he refuses to talk about it and he is so mean and angry to me all the time . He is never mean to my sister just me .
I know I can’t make it any easier for you but I must say your mental health is just as important as your fathers . You need to do what is good for you . You can not feel guilt . Your father knows that you love him he is just scared and angry but this doesn’t justify him taking it out on you xxx
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